Then... you see a case where the mother is ticked off. She will call him names in front of the children. Gain their empathy because she is now all alone. All the while, she is programming the children to hate their father.

So, when the father thinks things have calmed down and tries to come back, the mother will display this gatekeeper mentality by denying him visitation. After all, the attention is back on her now. So, she is trying to advance her cause among her social circle by displaying herself as the savior of her children.

Meanwhile, the father understands the situation has not changed and may either leave for good or try to make up for time lost with the children if he accepts the fact that the mother will not change her attitude.

Now, the mother looks for social affirmation in order to look for justifications of her actions towards the father. Of course, girlfriends and white knight guy friends will come to the rescue because this father's name has been dragged through the mud. This support system by the mother would go to great lengths to support the custodial interference by the mother to the father.

Once that happens, the father may just give up completely. After all, who would want to endure that emotional and psychological abuse? So, he leaves again and again and again.

After a while, the mother senses victory against the father and celebrates her achievement. She continues to get the support and is, therefore, able to establish the "single mother" role that is championed by society. She celebrates both Mother's Day and Father's Day. She goes onto social media taunting the tough lifestyle of single parenting... even following single mother Facebook pages and posting their memes. The mother would even take credit for every achievement earned by the child. Every feature, look, and activity of the child is because of the "single mother" role that allowed her to overcome the odds. She may even interview for a "new" dad for her next relationship while, at the same time, tell her children that their "real" daddy doesn't love them anymore.

At the same time, the father, either legally or socially, is basically banned from becoming a part of the child's life. He may go on with his life and even remarry and have more children of his own. He believes that his oldest child is better without him because the child is emotionally conditioned to believe whatever the mother and her friends and family have said about him. To abandon the toxic relationship with the mother, the father feels compelled to abandon the child as well.

If Child Support is involved in Alaska, it usually means that the transfer of wealth from one parent to another is an exercise of control for the recipient and submission for the other under the Percentage- by-Obligor model. Control then alienates the father more from his own child. If he has not paid child support, he is now a deadbeat dad. Yet, you and I do not know if he could afford the payments. He is already paying for a house, car, groceries... everything you need to sustain a home... and... his lawyer's fees, her lawyer fees, court administrative costs, court-ordered training or classes and etc. Many times, the father is in the arrears before the first payment is in effect because payments are retroactive to the time the mother filed and not when the judgment was made. Now, he realizes that he cannot afford this and maintain a house. He falls further behind. His missed payments are reported on his credit report as a "public" debt. All the while, his ex is calling him a deadbeat. Now, the state gets involved and takes away his license and certifications. He can't perform at his job. He is now fired. He went from a six-figure salary to bankruptcy and facing jail time. So, when we see a deadbeat dad, can he afford it?

If domestic violence was alleged, it becomes the silver bullet tactic that would legally shut the father out of his child's life for good. In Alaska, we have more incentives for "victims" to claim abuse on a "perpetrator" without recourse and Due Process many times. Now, the father has a history for which the violence may have been reciprocated. But, we will never know who was the perpetrator and who was the victim. All that matters in Alaska is the person requesting a Protective Order is automatically the "victim" and the accused is the "perpetrator." But, he doesn't file because who will believe him? He cannot even go to a Domestic Violence shelter in Alaska because they do not offer services for men. But, she filed and she is now the "victim" in the relationship. He is now stereotyped for the rest of his life and he knows that he is innocent!

Regardless of how the custodial interference occurred, the negative ramifications are the same and the child suffers most of all.

So, when we hear of deadbeat dad and perpetrator... was that the whole truth? Was it worth destroying someone else's life to make one person feel better and justified in their actions?

This is what I see from this woman. So, I ask, what can we do to help?

Respectfully,

David V.
Alaska Chapter Lead

Exactly.......  Politadick

Sure, I’d love Chinese tourism dollars spent in Alaska and wholesome Alaska Grown babyfood sold to millions of Chinese to be fed to tots, but am I ready for the State of Alaska to strike a deal in the billions with the Chinese and believe they will only have a “minor role” in the gasline as Walker claims?

No, I am most certainly not.

We should be fostering interest in our gas to South Korea, to Taiwan, to Japan, to the Philippines, to Vietnam; we should be looking at the possibility of shipping it from our northern coast instead of an 800-mile pipeline; and we should be looking for interest in the project by private sector leads here at home.

I didn’t want to post this recent AP article until Alaskans had safely returned from the trade trip, but now that they’re back home, here’s a glimpse into the stark reality of China. (And if you share this link on your page, please consider pasting my comments with it so it makes sense why you’re sharing the article.)